How to stop comparing yourself to your coworkers and focus on you

“Why are they getting a promotion? I’ve been here longer and no one is giving me a promotion.”

“Why are they getting called into a meeting and I’m not? Are they talking about me?”

“How come they get to leave early? Must be nice!”

During the work day, these are just some of the thoughts that have run through my mind. If these questions have also recently swirled around your brain, instead of getting angry, upset and jealous of the unfair advantages you believe are happening to your coworkers, see this as your wake-up call.

Turn that frustration into focus and take a serious look at your career, your skills and your performance. Don’t waste time thinking about what your colleagues are doing or why they appear to have more opportunities than you. I know it’s hard but concerning yourself with what other people are doing is not going to help you get you the status you are looking for.

Focus on your own paper
You have NO idea what your colleagues are really doing, who they are networking with, or their career goals. It can be so easy to look at someone else and think stellar things just happen to them but realize you are only seeing their highlight reel. You don’t know what is going on behind the scenes. You also have no idea what they might’ve given up or compromised on to get where they are. And furthermore, it’s none of your business. So focus on you!

Take a career inventory
Consider what you have been contributing to the company since you arrived and what you plan to contribute to help the company’s mission move forward. How have you improved since you’ve started? What new projects have you worked on, completed, collaborated or executed to perfection?

Start keeping track of the projects you’ve managed, praise you have gotten, kudos you’ve received, processes you’ve created, etc. so when it’s time to speak to your boss, you are prepared with evidence.

Bottomline: Focusing on your colleagues are doing does nothing to further your career, all it does is make you jealous, resentful and unproductive. There are better uses of your time that can actually help you achieve your career goals.

Your action this week is to start documenting your achievements, whether that’s in a journal, a file on your Google Docs, or cutting out clips or articles that mention you, however collecting praise works in your world. Get to it.