Remember when Kathie Lee sat next to Regis every morning, Ricki Lake regularly exposed cheating partners, and Jerry Springer was so outrageous you couldn’t miss an episode?
It was during this time, Oprah was making her switch from sensational tactics to get eyeballs to inspirational topics to help everyone realize they are responsible for their lives. And every weekday at 4 p.m., Oprah broadcasted from my grandmother’s kitchen counter while she served dehydrated American dishes, that she only made because she didn’t think her grandkids would eat her West Indian cooking.
During those thirst-quenching dinners, as I watched Oprah gain respect and easily command an audience, I decided I wanted to be her. I wanted to be popular and for everyone to love me.
To my dismay, when I finally got in front of a camera during my college broadcasting class, I discovered I hated it. I felt completely vulnerable, stiff and uncomfortable. I know, those who have seen me give my commercial at BNI meetings or execute my Toastmasters’ speech with zeal are probably raising both their eyebrows in disbelief, but it’s true.
Seeing as how my television career was cut short, before it began, I had to make a serious pivot in my career. I shifted to journalism and owning my own magazine, helping high school students find scholarships and get all the info they needed to get into college.
Except there was another snag in the plan when I realized I didn’t want to have to do all the work it took to get that started. Seriously, there is A LOT of work to get a magazine going: raising capital, finding other writers, designers, distribution, etc. I didn’t and still don’t want any part of that.
Ugh! Now I had to scrap that idea and come up another one, which is the story of my career. I test something out, don’t like it, move on. In the crystallizing of the idea I always exclaim “This is it!” So far, these are the careers I’ve tested out.
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Some of these careers I am still actively dabbling in, others I’ve put on the backburner, for now. To be honest, I have three more career ideas I want to test.
And that is the point.
As you get older, you will change, and what you started out doing 2, 5, or more years ago may not be what you want to be doing now.
Honestly, why in the world is it that we are forced to decide what we want to be at the ripe ol’ age of 18? We are just figuring out how to party all night, make it to class the next day and pay attention through a hangover. We are not living in the futuristic dystopian city of Chicago in Divergent. We can’t possibly be ready to plan for our ENTIRE lives.
If you are feeling the career you are in is not where you want to be forever, it’s okay. You can change your mind, and it doesn’t matter how many years you have spent in your current career. Stop forcing yourself to like it.
You only have this one life, you don’t want to waste it doing something you no longer or maybe never enjoyed.
Now, it’s time for you to chime in: When you were younger, what did you always dream you’d do when you grew up? Are you doing it? Why or why not?